12 Topics You MUST Discuss Before Getting Married

Ever wonder what you need to talk about before you get married?  As a marriage counselor offering premarital counseling for many years, I have selected these as the most important topics along with questions for you to explore before you walk down the aisle. Trouble discussing any of these issues might suggest to you that […]

5 Tips To Help You Grow If Cheating Has Rocked Your Relationship

Unhappy couple exploring how to repair their relationship after cheating and betrayal.

75% of the couples who seek marriage or relationship counseling after discovering infidelity or cheating not only survive but thrive.  Granted, that’s a select audience because some couples give up and call a lawyer. However, I cite this statistic to give you hope if you are even considering working on your marriage after experiencing the […]

5 Things Your Man Doesn’t Understand But Could If You Do This

Woman looking off wondering what she can do to help her man understand her better.

Do you ever feel like your  man doesn’t understand you.  Maybe you feel frustrated because he just seems dense.  Things that seem obvious to you don’t seem to occur you to him.  As a premarital marriage counselor in New York City and in Westchester County, I have worked with couples for over forty years. I […]

Premarital Counseling: Before You Say I Do

Happy couple smiling about getting premarital counseling with Dr. Jim Walkup.

Brides and grooms make thousands of decisions and spend good money getting the reception, house of worship, officiant, flowers, invitations, and honeymoon to grow together, hopefully for a lifetime.  But what about investing in securing the right tools and skills for your relationship by engaging in premarital counseling sessions or a workshop? My Most Popular Article […]

6 Ways To Diffuse A Fight When Your Wife Gives You THAT Look!

Unhappy couple.

Women have, at times, a way of really getting under their guy’s skin. Maybe she gave you “that look” when you did something she disliked. Or, she took a breath, in that particularly annoyed way that makes your inner anger burn.  Or she rolled her eyes at you when you didn’t do what she “told” […]

What Makes The “Time Out” Protocol Work In Relationships?

When your partner calls a time out, you may feel that he is just trying to avoid the issue and will never get back to resolving the issue or hearing what you feel. You will find time outs work simply because, only when your heart is not racing and the adrenalin has not kicked in, […]