Time Outs & Unilateral Ceasefires
Think of those times when you got angry and said things that you wished you had not said. Thriving couples have a great tool to head this off at the pass. You have a contract with each other that either of you can call a unilateral ceasefire. Letting your heartbeat fall back to 100 beats […]
Questionnaires
Dr. Jim’s 12 Topics and 75 Questions Every Couple Should Talk About Before Getting Married Myers-Briggs Personality Inventory Enneagram Adult ADHD Self Report Scale Symptom Checklist American Brain System Test for ADD and other brain related issues Signature Strengths from Authentic Happiness Life Transitions Stress Questionnaire Stress Resiliency Questionnaire Fun Premarital or Couple Quiz: Relationship […]
One Tip for Making Your Partner Feel Great
For a marriage to make it, couples need to have five positive interactions for every one negative one. Others have suggested that great marriages raise that ratio to one in twenty. Some of the most successful couples challenge themselves to wind up in a positive space with each other in most of their interactions. Whether […]
4 Tips to Enliven Your Marriage
1. Remember what you did when you were dating and do those things again. Often. 2. Share your wishes beginning with, “I would love it if…” 3. Recognize good things about your partner and express your “thanks” often. 4. Let go of trying to “change your spouse” and take on the challenge of changing yourself.
The Biggest Challenges After The Betrayal Of Infidelity
After You Find Out… Your partner has revealed all of the details. You’ve received daily apologies. Yes, your partner has owned the responsibility for breaking your trust. The two of you are working hard to find ways to communicate and understand what caring about the other means. But there’s one problem. While you may […]
21 “Must Know” Questions & Answers To Build Trust After Cheating As You Try To Overcome Infidelity
Discovering your partner has been cheating in an extramarital affair will rock your marriage. If you’re looking for ways to overcome infidelity and rebuild trust, here’s a list of questions and answers. Exploring them will help you explore what healthy couples have done to heal their pain and move on with their lives. Surviving infidelity […]