Women Need to Express Feelings or They Are More Prone to Heart-attacks
Women, who feel they have to restrain themselves from expressing feelings about their partner, are four times more likely to have coronary heart disease than those women who feel free to explore their feelings. Silencing yourself to keep the peace in the relationship according to recent research is more dangerous than smoking for women.
Statistics show that 32 per cent of men and 23 per cent of women in our country do tend to keep their feelings to themselves. Yet men seem not to feel particularly constricted by this move. Men are acculturated to keep their feelings to themselves. Women however seem to experience a greater of release of cortisol, the stress hormone, when they push their feelings down.
On the other hand, men seem to be affected when the wife is working and is unhappy in her job. This seems to be upsetting to men because they feel their job is to protect the family. If a wife comes home each evening from work and complains about things at work, the man feels helpless to do anything that would protect her from the craziness.
This new research emphasizes how much bad marital communication can harm the physiological functions of the body. Learning effective communication skills can cut down the risk of coronary heart disease So if as a wife, you tend to silence your feelings as a way of not upsetting your partner, than enroll in a course or get into some couple relationship counseling to live longer.
If as a husband, you feel frustrated when your wife comes home upset about her work, don’t do the male thing and try to fix it. Instead, listen. Give her your full attention, look her in the eye, and nod your head. Let her tell you exactly what it is like to be her at work. Allow her to know that you can appreciate how she might feel that way.
You cannot estimate how much it will mean to her to have a safe haven to come home to where she can talk about her feelings. While you can’t make the situations go away, you can allow her to feel heard, appreciated, and loved. Trust me on this. Doing this is almost as good as fixing it. At least she will know how much you want to be there for her. It will increase the chance for her to be around for a longer life together.
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