1. Remember what you did when you were dating and do those things again. Often.
2. Share your wishes beginning with, “I would love it if…”
3. Recognize good things about your partner and express your “thanks” often.
4. Let go of trying to “change your spouse” and take on the challenge of changing yourself.

Jim Walkup
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Dr. Jim Walkup is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Southern Westchester, New York, with over 40 years of experience helping couples restore and revitalize their relationships. Specializing in marriage counseling, premarital guidance, and infidelity recovery, Dr. Walkup offers compassionate, action-oriented therapy designed to defuse conflict, rebuild trust, and improve communication for couples in crisis.

