Have you lost some of the passionate feelings you had when you first got married? Do you sometimes forget that you are attracted to the one you love?
Over time, the familiarity does not perpetuate intense erotic desire. Having children often leads to less intimacy between couples.
As your wife goes off to teach, you can pass on the sense of how lucky the kids are to have her creativity and energy. As she goes off to take on the challenging Board meeting, you can tell her how much you admire the effort she has put into making it successful.
When he comes home with deep frustration about his bosses comments, stop and care. You can let him know that you have experienced an entirely different commitment to the work on his part in other areas.
Of course, you need to find things that you can honestly affirm. Otherwise, your partner will sense that you are spouting off blind positives. However at the heart of good couple communication, you only want to let your spouse know that you cherish being married to the greatest.
When you pause, you can see what your partner cannot remember at that moment. You know deep down some of the good intentions that your partner holds. You can appreciate the stresses and strains behind a missed effort. You can be there to see how much more your partner to offer than he’s feeling in the present moment.
Perhaps more than anyone else, you can hold the faith for what your partner can become and offer the encouragement that will make that possible. You beloved will never forget it.
