If You’re Hesitant about Walking Down the Aisle, Read This
Do you wonder if your wedding plans are a mistake? Have you considered premarital counseling? A recent article in the NY Times delineates ways to help you think this out. You need to differentiate normal anxiety about getting married from danger signals that merit careful attention. You may have a nagging feeling of knowing that this […]
Are These Your Concerns?
These concerns are some of the best ones to really explore in therapy. Do you want to communicate better? Do your arguments spiral out of control? Are you sad about the distance that has grown between you? Do you feel your partner simply does not “get you?” Do you sometimes wonder if your partner simply […]
“In a State of Meaningful Closeness Each of You Will Feel Fully Alive”- Dr. Jim
To forge a passionate long-term relationship, you will need more than love. Meaningful closeness springs from a couple being intentional in their use of time with each other. Skills in communication, conflict resolution, and envisioning the future together will open the door to a profound sense of intimacy. Seven Ingredients of Meaningful Closeness (Click) Six […]
Not Just Quality Time But How Much?
You’ve often heard it said, that it’s not the amount of time you spend with your spouse but whether or not it’s quality time. Let me suggest that the amount of time counts equally. I have couples who come in for a marriage counseling session who look at each other and admit that they have […]
How To Get The Most From Relationship Counseling
Now that you have taken this giant leap of faith to seek relationship counseling, how do you get the most for your time and money? Here are some of ways to increase the effectiveness of your therapy. Envision the relationship you want to move toward. Know what you want your relationship to feel like when you have […]
This Is The Minimum Amount Of Time Needed To Keep Your Marriage Thriving
15 minute check-ins each day to see how the other’s day has gone Once a week, take time to plan the week & to review the state of your marriage One evening out per week to act and do what you did when you were dating (without kids) Once every three months, plan an overnight […]