If you can, simply tell your partner that you want to understand what has led up to this and that you would like see if you can create a new relationship.
Of course, your marriage will never be the same but many couples feel that they have found a new level of intimacy that they never had before.
Eighty-five per cent of the couples who do come to marriage counseling after an affair strengthen their marriage and make a new commitment.
But they do not know at the beginning whether the relationship can survive the trauma.
