7 Feelings A Husband Wrestles With After He’s Had An Affair

After you have confronted him about the cheating, you may wonder what he is feeling.  Since he has betrayed your trust in such a painful way, you may find it hard to believe anything he is saying. As someone who specializes in extramarital affair recovery, I want to tell you what I have heard many […]

5 Tips To Help You Grow If Cheating Has Rocked Your Relationship

Unhappy couple exploring how to repair their relationship after cheating and betrayal.

75% of the couples who seek marriage or relationship counseling after discovering infidelity or cheating not only survive but thrive.  Granted, that’s a select audience because some couples give up and call a lawyer. However, I cite this statistic to give you hope if you are even considering working on your marriage after experiencing the […]

3 Ways To Cheat-Proof Your Relationship BEFORE You Marry Him

About to say “I do?”  Beware — If your fiance has any of these 5 traits, he’ll probably cheat.  (Click for article) A client of mine recently called wondering if it would even be appropriate to come in. You see, she’s engaged with the wedding fast approaching,  She’s worried whether or not her fiancé might […]

Am I Crazy? A Story Of Hope After The Discovery of Cheating

It is possible to find hope after betrayal… When Ginny called, the tremble in her voice touched me. Ken had left his phone on, so she did not need the password. She broke her rule of never intruding into his privacy. She discovered a slew of text messages and cell phone calls that her husband […]

Flashbacks: What You Have To Know to Face Them

  Suddenly You Are Reliving Your Worst Memory You’re watching a movie, and there’s mention of someone having an extramarital affair.  Suddenly you find yourself replaying all of the fantasies and feelings that you had when you learned about the details of your partner’s cheating. All of the body sensations and anger and hurt that […]

Dr. Jim Quoted in New York Times

Click to see Dr. Walkup’s quote in New York Times: In an article on finding the erotic in marriage, he comments on the writer, Esther Perel who wrote the book: MATING IN CAPTIVITY.