7 Feelings A Husband Wrestles With After He’s Had An Affair

After you have confronted him about the cheating, you may wonder what he is feeling.  Since he has betrayed your trust in such a painful way, you may find it hard to believe anything he is saying. As someone who specializes in extramarital affair recovery, I want to tell you what I have heard many […]

Am I Crazy? A Story Of Hope After The Discovery of Cheating

It is possible to find hope after betrayal… When Ginny called, the tremble in her voice touched me. Ken had left his phone on, so she did not need the password. She broke her rule of never intruding into his privacy. She discovered a slew of text messages and cell phone calls that her husband […]

Flashbacks: What You Have To Know to Face Them

  Suddenly You Are Reliving Your Worst Memory You’re watching a movie, and there’s mention of someone having an extramarital affair.  Suddenly you find yourself replaying all of the fantasies and feelings that you had when you learned about the details of your partner’s cheating. All of the body sensations and anger and hurt that […]

Dr. Jim Quoted in New York Times

Click to see Dr. Walkup’s quote in New York Times: In an article on finding the erotic in marriage, he comments on the writer, Esther Perel who wrote the book: MATING IN CAPTIVITY.

What Steps You Need to Take When Your Mate Discovers Your Cheating

Now that your partner has gotten your attention you’ll need to show good faith by taking action.  Express remorse and listen without being defensive. Do not pretend that you don’t know what she’s talking about. If you can, acknowledge the truth and tell her your plans to end it. Any trying to hide the facts […]

What Made Your Marriage Vulnerable to an Extramarital Affair

If you can, simply tell your partner that you  want to  understand what has led up to this and that you would like see if you can create a new relationship. Of course, your marriage will never be the same but many couples feel that they have found a new level of intimacy that they never had […]