Discovering your partner is cheating, will cause you a trauma unlike anything else that you have imagined with the possible exception of the death of your child. We human beings are hardwired to reach for connection. When you thought your intimate other had agreed to exclusive commitment and now you know differently, chaos will ensue.
At first you may feel you have no one to turn to. You are justified in your concern because talking to the wrong people can serve to make your life miserable. The best friend that you would want to soothe you through hard times has betrayed you.
Do not attempt to go through this alone. You will need someone who knows the stages of this crisis, who can normalize for you the intensity of the feelings and hold the faith for you that you can come out on the other side.
You will want to know all of the details. Yet right now you will react out of a vulnerable place that will allow the details to pop back into your mind at some of the worst moments. Let me invite you to read through these articles to discover ways to navigate the shoals to move from feeling like a victim to building your life back.
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